Being the Rope in "Tug of War"

Hi, as many of you know I'm Kayla Rogers and I am an Adult Child of Divorce (A.C.O.D). My parents whom had been married 30+ years recently got a divorce, and I must say this last past year has been full of big time stress endeavors. With out intention my parents have put me directly in the middle, meaning I am the "Rope" of their tug of war. When parents split they inherit the true "disease" of divorce. They tend to try and grab their child/children and get them on their side. What they fail to realize is that, unintentionally your tearing your child apart in half. As a young adult we get to the point where everything that happens we have an idea, or know exactly what mainly all traumatic events mean, one in particular Divorce. So when it happens at a age of 16 and older we get told and listen to things we probably shouldn't. As parents they should never let their child know the true reason they are splitting up. Reason being is they tend to place more blame on the other for their unacceptable actions, and try to manipulate your mind into believing your father/mother are horrible human beings. Now in my case, an affair took place and so one did wrong while the other didn't, therefore I knew where the blame laid. Knowing where the blame needed to be placed was hurtful enough, much less when they split one parents tends to confide in the older child and tell them everything that they truly don't need to know about the other. It creates this sense of choose me , pick me, be MINE and not theirs, because they hurt me. When in fact parents should console the child and promise them that everything will work out, and to always continue to love the other parent. They may have been a bad husband/wife, but that does not make them a bad parent and that should always be reiterated to the child.